A while back wrote a post called The Amazing Genderless Baby! in which I talked about gender-neutral parenting and parents who choose not to disclose the sex of child.
The conflation of “sex” and “gender”—the belief in “biological truth” that assigned female at birth are “women” and that assigned male are “men” is everywhere. Despite Chaz Bono’s widely publicized mantra the “gender is between your ears, not your legs,” the gender police still peek down our pants and up our skirts to determine gender differences.
This belief is what causes many people to argue that gender-neutral parenting is trying to fight biology, and therefore, futile. As I’ve said before, these parents aren’t trying to eradicate gender — which is “genderless baby” claim false — but rather, allow their children as many options, and freedom to express themselves as possible.
Gender-neutral parenting about protecting children from being placed in narrow, confining, little gender box as soon as people know what sex they are. Referring to children whose parents have been in media over the last year for gender-neutral parenting, White states:
The conversation around raising kids like Storm and Sasha accuses parents of assigning their children “genderless” identities. But according to parents, they’re letting their kids explore range of options.
Exactly! I plan to give my (future) kids as many options as possible.
Here to help explain the “gender is between your ears” concept bit more is Laci Green, with an entertaining and informative video. Enjoy!